Abortion
Margaret's Testimony
13 01,14 11:09
Below is Margaret’s story of how the Abortion Recovery Bible Study at A Place for Women in Waipio helped lift a 38 year burden she carried for a past abortion.
A Place for Women in Waipio offers separate group classes for men and women as well as an individual study. All classes are free.
More information on our classes can be found at:
http://www.oahupregnancycenter.com/Services/Post_Abortion_Recovery_Class/index.html
We are currently conducting interviews for the upcoming winter session.
If you are post-abortive and interested in our classes, please call our office at 808-678-3991 and speak to a Life Advocate to set up an interview for our next session.
A Place for Women in Waipio offers separate group classes for men and women as well as an individual study. All classes are free.
More information on our classes can be found at:
http://www.oahupregnancycenter.com/Services/Post_Abortion_Recovery_Class/index.html
We are currently conducting interviews for the upcoming winter session.
If you are post-abortive and interested in our classes, please call our office at 808-678-3991 and speak to a Life Advocate to set up an interview for our next session.
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The Child I Would Have Killed Saved Me
25 11,13 12:04
Before I became a Christian, I told my daughter to abort her child as she was not working, not married, and was near eviction. She said, "Okay, Mom", but didn't. Thank God!
When I went to see her, she said truthful that she did not abort the child. We then went to get an ultrasound and was told she is too far gone into her pregnancy to abort. I accepted that and told her to come home. My husband and I eventually became guardians of Kathy, the child that was not aborted, and her brother, Marcus.
When Kathy was three, I was reading her a bedtime story and I began to weep, as I was very sad over my daughter's life. Kathy said, "Grandma, don't cry. Jesus is in your heart and he will protect you!" She learned this from her Wednesday devotionals at her Baptist preschool. Here were profound words from the mouth of a babe.
The very next day was Sunday, so I decided to take Kathy to church. It has been a love affair with Christ ever since.
Here was a child, thru abortion I would have KILLED, has instead LIVED and SAVED me.
Kathy today is a bright 12 year old, gifted in music, following the covenants of the Lord the best she can. I have found the Lord leading me to help the homeless and poor, and have formed Jesus Center, a non profit, to help strengthen the homeless and poor in Jesus through Bible Study and an Earning Money Workshop, where we make quilts and crafts (to sell) along with informal counseling. My husband and I have also adopted Kathy and her two siblings, Marcus and Kara. We are raising three children all over again as we near seventy.
Everything we do is to the GLORY of GOD. Every child in the womb has been created special by the Lord. We have no right to kill it through worldly decisions.
Karen Otaka
When I went to see her, she said truthful that she did not abort the child. We then went to get an ultrasound and was told she is too far gone into her pregnancy to abort. I accepted that and told her to come home. My husband and I eventually became guardians of Kathy, the child that was not aborted, and her brother, Marcus.
When Kathy was three, I was reading her a bedtime story and I began to weep, as I was very sad over my daughter's life. Kathy said, "Grandma, don't cry. Jesus is in your heart and he will protect you!" She learned this from her Wednesday devotionals at her Baptist preschool. Here were profound words from the mouth of a babe.
The very next day was Sunday, so I decided to take Kathy to church. It has been a love affair with Christ ever since.
Here was a child, thru abortion I would have KILLED, has instead LIVED and SAVED me.
Kathy today is a bright 12 year old, gifted in music, following the covenants of the Lord the best she can. I have found the Lord leading me to help the homeless and poor, and have formed Jesus Center, a non profit, to help strengthen the homeless and poor in Jesus through Bible Study and an Earning Money Workshop, where we make quilts and crafts (to sell) along with informal counseling. My husband and I have also adopted Kathy and her two siblings, Marcus and Kara. We are raising three children all over again as we near seventy.
Everything we do is to the GLORY of GOD. Every child in the womb has been created special by the Lord. We have no right to kill it through worldly decisions.
Karen Otaka
Cheryl's Testimony
17 11,13 10:24
Below is Cheryl’s story of how the Abortion Recovery Bible Study at A Place for Women in Waipio helped her.
A Place for Women in Waipio offers separate group classes for men and women as well as an individual study. All classes are free.
More information on our classes can be found at:
http://www.oahupregnancycenter.com/Services/Post_Abortion_Recovery_Class/index.html
We are currently conducting interviews for the upcoming winter session.
If you are post-abortive and interested in our classes, please call our office at 808-678-3991 and speak to a Life Advocate to set up an interview for our next session.
A Place for Women in Waipio offers separate group classes for men and women as well as an individual study. All classes are free.
More information on our classes can be found at:
http://www.oahupregnancycenter.com/Services/Post_Abortion_Recovery_Class/index.html
We are currently conducting interviews for the upcoming winter session.
If you are post-abortive and interested in our classes, please call our office at 808-678-3991 and speak to a Life Advocate to set up an interview for our next session.
America – The Land of Hypocrites?
27 10,13 13:09
America was once called “the land of the free”. However, one could argue that we have lost that complement, only to earn a new title … “The Land of Hypocrites”.
What is a hypocrite? According to Webster’s Dictionary, a hypocrite is a person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right, but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs. By a simple review of American statistics, hypocrisy is the only explanation for what we see:
- According to Pew Research, 93.8% of American’s surveyed claim to be Christian.1
- Yet in another Pew Research study, 46% do not find abortion morally wrong. This is also supported by the fact that 51.1% of Americans voted for President Obama, who supports all forms of abortion, including partial birth abortions. 2
If 93.8% of Americans claim to be Christian, then only 6.2% of Americans should find no moral issues with abortion. The fact that it is 46%, and one could argue it’s 51% given the voting record, can only be explained by hypocrisy.
Why is abortion contrary to Christianity? Simply stated, life begins at conception. As Christians, we place our faith in the Word of God, the Bible. One can’t claim to be a Christian, but also deny the Bible as the Word of God.
The Bible tells us that we are more than just a physical body; we are body, soul, and spirit. Thus, when our physical body dies, our soul and spirit continue to live for eternity. Why is this important to understand? It helps us to know when life begins, since life begins when our soul and spirit are created. Here is what we know from the Bible:
- My words come from my upright heart; My lips utter pure knowledge. The Spirit of God has made me, And the breath of the Almighty gives me life. (Job 33:3-4)
- For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. (Psalm 139:13-14)
We learn two very important truths from these verses … (1) life (our spirit and soul) comes from the breath of God, and (2) it starts at conception in the mother’s womb.
Given these Biblical truths, abortion ends the life of the baby, regardless of age or size in the womb. Abortion is intentional, and intentionally ending a life is murder.
As Christians, we can’t support abortion, at any stage of development or for any reason, without being hypocrites. Let’s reverse this trend. Let’s return to the Land of the Free … a land where the unborn have the same right to life as the rest of us.
1 http://religions.pewforum.org/affiliations
2 www.pewforum.org/2013/01/22/public-opinion-on-abortion-and-roe-v-wade/
by Chris J
Guest Blogger
Abortion Recovery Class
25 09,13 09:13
Below is Rowena’s story of being able to fully receive God’s forgiveness with the help of A Place for Women’s post-abortive recovery class.
A Place for Women in Waipio offers separate group classes for men and women as well as an individual study. All classes are free.
More information on our classes can be found at:
http://www.oahupregnancycenter.com/Services/Post_Abortion_Recovery_Class/index.html
We are currently conducting interviews for the upcoming winter session.
If you are post-abortive and interested in our classes, please call our office at 808-678-3991 and speak to a Life Advocate to set up an interview for our next session.
A Place for Women in Waipio offers separate group classes for men and women as well as an individual study. All classes are free.
More information on our classes can be found at:
http://www.oahupregnancycenter.com/Services/Post_Abortion_Recovery_Class/index.html
We are currently conducting interviews for the upcoming winter session.
If you are post-abortive and interested in our classes, please call our office at 808-678-3991 and speak to a Life Advocate to set up an interview for our next session.
Call It What It Is
16 09,13 10:16
When a panda cub died many people mourned the loss of the baby panda. It is such a harsh reality in the wild that some things will live and some will die well before it's time. However, change that to a basketball player's wife getting an abortion and the New York Times celebrates their decision. The baby panda was considered a baby cub. The abortion of a baby is only recognized as a fetus, mistake, a burden that was dealt with so this young athletic couple could resume their ambitions and love story and not have the burden of providing for a second child.
I read the story today on The Blaze and LifeNews.com. Both times I read the story I was saddened that a marriage announcement would include the abortion as a rite of passage from hard times to celebration. The ball player is Udonis Haslem of the Miami Heat and his wife. This appears to be another case of the Bro Choice and abortion movement pushing abortion as a viable option with little negative emotional consequence. In fact, this abortion is heralded as a magnanimous decision that helped solidify the couple's relationship. He cared for her so lovingly after she had her abortion.
Bro Choice is an organized movement of men that are for abortions. The men go as far as to share how to encourage or talk a woman into getting an abortion. They also give states that have more lenient abortion laws that make abortions easier to come by. The men want no consequence or emotional involvement with the woman. The woman is almost a toy purely for sexual gratification. How is this liberation? This seems like a fancy way to become a sex slave. (Here is an article with a video on Bro-Choice. http://christiannews.net/2013/07/16/)
The man in the Bro Choice movement is taught to "fake" a relationship to have unprotected sex without involvement. The man uses the woman like a common sex worker, harlot, or prostitute. The woman may be unaware of such a cavalier or indifferent attitude. This is not a relationship it is a hoax, mirage, a slide of hand. This is supposed to be progress?
How can we encourage young women to carry their babies when they cannot trust the person they have known so intimately? The media celebrates the termination then walks away from the young women believing that they have cured the woman of her "problem". However, long after the baby is gone the woman suffers. Statistically, a woman is far more likely to be suicidal and suffer mental health problems. The woman will often become pregnant again shortly after to recover the child she aborted. Sadly, many times the woman will abort that second child as well. Often, women that have had abortions are apt to have had multiple abortions.
Realistically, their baby would have looked like both of them. Their baby was protected until they sought surgical intervention to remove the baby. They will never know the laughter, smile, capability, or personality of the child they killed. Was the baby going to play ball like his father or be a runner like his/her mother? In their celebration of the decision they made, a child was forever erased. I will grieve the loss and the loss of the children I will never know.
What resources as a Pro Life community can we provide to women to encourage life? What emotional support can we give? Develop a rapport with women and men. Let us begin discussing life and mentoring. Let us as a community create and foster our Ohana! Let us walk along our beautiful women Let us teach our men to stand tall and offer them hope and resources. Let us open our homes and help them to live with intention.
by Noel
Guest Blogger
I read the story today on The Blaze and LifeNews.com. Both times I read the story I was saddened that a marriage announcement would include the abortion as a rite of passage from hard times to celebration. The ball player is Udonis Haslem of the Miami Heat and his wife. This appears to be another case of the Bro Choice and abortion movement pushing abortion as a viable option with little negative emotional consequence. In fact, this abortion is heralded as a magnanimous decision that helped solidify the couple's relationship. He cared for her so lovingly after she had her abortion.
Bro Choice is an organized movement of men that are for abortions. The men go as far as to share how to encourage or talk a woman into getting an abortion. They also give states that have more lenient abortion laws that make abortions easier to come by. The men want no consequence or emotional involvement with the woman. The woman is almost a toy purely for sexual gratification. How is this liberation? This seems like a fancy way to become a sex slave. (Here is an article with a video on Bro-Choice. http://christiannews.net/2013/07/16/)
The man in the Bro Choice movement is taught to "fake" a relationship to have unprotected sex without involvement. The man uses the woman like a common sex worker, harlot, or prostitute. The woman may be unaware of such a cavalier or indifferent attitude. This is not a relationship it is a hoax, mirage, a slide of hand. This is supposed to be progress?
How can we encourage young women to carry their babies when they cannot trust the person they have known so intimately? The media celebrates the termination then walks away from the young women believing that they have cured the woman of her "problem". However, long after the baby is gone the woman suffers. Statistically, a woman is far more likely to be suicidal and suffer mental health problems. The woman will often become pregnant again shortly after to recover the child she aborted. Sadly, many times the woman will abort that second child as well. Often, women that have had abortions are apt to have had multiple abortions.
Realistically, their baby would have looked like both of them. Their baby was protected until they sought surgical intervention to remove the baby. They will never know the laughter, smile, capability, or personality of the child they killed. Was the baby going to play ball like his father or be a runner like his/her mother? In their celebration of the decision they made, a child was forever erased. I will grieve the loss and the loss of the children I will never know.
What resources as a Pro Life community can we provide to women to encourage life? What emotional support can we give? Develop a rapport with women and men. Let us begin discussing life and mentoring. Let us as a community create and foster our Ohana! Let us walk along our beautiful women Let us teach our men to stand tall and offer them hope and resources. Let us open our homes and help them to live with intention.
by Noel
Guest Blogger
You Looked Sad Today . . .
09 09,13 16:30
I saw you today. Maybe you did not know I saw you because I was so busy dealing with my life. Sometimes, I forget to smile or get out of my head long enough to remember others are hurting. Sometimes, I am just at a loss. I am sorry.
I think about the mothers that have aborted their babies and the loss they continue to experience. I think about the lies they were told and how they won't experience the birth of their baby. I think about how the abortion process itself is such a violation. I have read the lies that Abortion clinics write like calling your baby's remain "Products of Conception" instead of a baby. I can imagine you carry a great deal inside you.
As if going to the gynecologist is not bad enough, going to the gynecologist and having your cervix pried open to begin the abortion process is even more invasive. ADr. Levantino describes what the abortion process is like on this Youtube video, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=53tzMV9OmvY. He describes the process of aborting a baby and what you must do to abort a baby that is large. Not only did you think this abortion might solve your trouble, you were led to believe regret was just propaganda.
If you are over 26 weeks it will take 3 days for your cervix to dilate enough to pass your baby. At this point, your baby is viable outside of the womb. For three days you will go through seaweed sticks in your cervix and other measures to have your baby come out enough after the abortion is performed. You will feel your baby do his/her final kicks during the waiting.
If you experienced your baby in any manner, and then aborted your baby, I can imagine you might have any number of emotions. It is not uncommon to feel the following: regret, sadness, hopelessness, depression, loneliness, and even other emotions. Sometimes, you may not feel anything till many years later.
I may not know you, I may not have acknowledged you, and maybe I did not even know the secret you were carrying, but I think of the beautiful sculpture I once saw of a woman and a little girl in glass gently touching her mother's head. That image reminds me of the pain that you may carry. There is hope and peace for you. This sculptor, Martin Hudáček, of Slovakia describes his reason for such a sculpture and the message he sends to those that have had abortions.
April 2, 2012 (LifeSiteNews.com) - As an art student, Martin Hudáček of Slovakia was moved to create a sculpture to draw attention to the devastation abortion can bring to the woman, and to the fact that through the love and mercy of God, reconciliation and healing are possible. The sculpture shows a woman in great sorrow grieving her abortion. The second figure in the work is the aborted child, presented as a young child, who in a very touching, healing way, comes to the mother, to offer forgiveness.
Martin, who named the work “Memorial for Unborn Children,” said the sculpture also “expresses hope which is given to believers by the One who died on the cross for us, and showed how much He cares about all of us.” http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/heart-rending-young-slovakian-sculptor-captures-post-abortion-pain-mercy-an/
Sculptor: Martin Hudáček; born 1984; home: Banska Bystrica, Slovakia
by Noel
Guest Blogger
Knowledge is Power
26 08,13 12:41
If I know where to get the best bang for my buck I can buy more important necessities for my family. I can shop the ads and I can choose where I am going to shop, how much I spend, and if it is worth my time to even leave the house. I can make a wise decision that not only benefits me but others as well. So, why wouldn't someone want to provide you with details to help you make an informed decision regarding abortion?
Well, if you have something to gain, such as money, your motive becomes distorted. You see abortionists make money based on the number of abortions they perform. Perform is perhaps the best way to describe the act that takes place. The Alliance for Defending Freedom details cases in progress at this time where Planned Parenthood is profiting from abortions and the uninformed victims.
They do not want you to see the baby in an ultrasound Stuart v. Huff. You might see a baby instead of tissue and change your mind. They do not want you to wait 72 hours before an abortion Planned Parenthood of Minnesota, North Dakota, South Dakota v. Daugaard. Again, you might have a change of mind and that might mean that they lose money. They do not want to let a parent know if their minor daughter is getting an abortion, Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest v. State of Alaska. They would rather make money off of the abortion rather than have a parent support their child in a time of need. Keep in mind the school cannot give your child medication without permission, but they can take your child to get an abortion.
According to the Alliance Defending Freedom, there are many cases pending against Planned Parenthood that detail fraud. These cases have ex-employees coming forward. Also, Jonathan Bloedown, a blogger, computer software consultant and prolife Christian discovered Planned Parenthood overcharging Medicaid. Jonathan Bloedow v. Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest, Inc., United States ex rel Thayer, Susan v. Planned Parenthood of the Heartland (Iowa), United States ex rel Johnson, Abby v. Planned Parenthood of the Houston and Southwest Texas.
Gosnell was not the only abortion doctor out there performing illegal and harmful acts. If these Nationally known clinics are willing to perform abortions against someone's will such as Planned Parenthood forcing a woman to have an abortion after "change of heart" Byer v. Doe. What else are they capable of doing?
This is not about "freedom" of choice. The bondage that results from the abortion (maybe not now, but soon or maybe even 5 years later) could cause you to suffer depression, lower quality of life, and a whole host of ailments based on a lie.
They want your money and they will take you somewhere very dark to be able to take it from you.
(All currently litigated cases discussed above with Alliance for Defending Freedom can be viewed on their website: www.alliancedefendingfreedom.org/page/prettyugly/cases,)
by Noel
Guest Blogger
Well, if you have something to gain, such as money, your motive becomes distorted. You see abortionists make money based on the number of abortions they perform. Perform is perhaps the best way to describe the act that takes place. The Alliance for Defending Freedom details cases in progress at this time where Planned Parenthood is profiting from abortions and the uninformed victims.
They do not want you to see the baby in an ultrasound Stuart v. Huff. You might see a baby instead of tissue and change your mind. They do not want you to wait 72 hours before an abortion Planned Parenthood of Minnesota, North Dakota, South Dakota v. Daugaard. Again, you might have a change of mind and that might mean that they lose money. They do not want to let a parent know if their minor daughter is getting an abortion, Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest v. State of Alaska. They would rather make money off of the abortion rather than have a parent support their child in a time of need. Keep in mind the school cannot give your child medication without permission, but they can take your child to get an abortion.
According to the Alliance Defending Freedom, there are many cases pending against Planned Parenthood that detail fraud. These cases have ex-employees coming forward. Also, Jonathan Bloedown, a blogger, computer software consultant and prolife Christian discovered Planned Parenthood overcharging Medicaid. Jonathan Bloedow v. Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest, Inc., United States ex rel Thayer, Susan v. Planned Parenthood of the Heartland (Iowa), United States ex rel Johnson, Abby v. Planned Parenthood of the Houston and Southwest Texas.
Gosnell was not the only abortion doctor out there performing illegal and harmful acts. If these Nationally known clinics are willing to perform abortions against someone's will such as Planned Parenthood forcing a woman to have an abortion after "change of heart" Byer v. Doe. What else are they capable of doing?
This is not about "freedom" of choice. The bondage that results from the abortion (maybe not now, but soon or maybe even 5 years later) could cause you to suffer depression, lower quality of life, and a whole host of ailments based on a lie.
They want your money and they will take you somewhere very dark to be able to take it from you.
(All currently litigated cases discussed above with Alliance for Defending Freedom can be viewed on their website: www.alliancedefendingfreedom.org/page/prettyugly/cases,)
by Noel
Guest Blogger
Can't Sleep . . .
05 08,13 11:44
Here it is 12:30 A.M. and I can't sleep because I have you on my mind. I just have this feeling right now you are wrestling with the biggest decision you will ever make. I feel so compelled to pray for you. I am right now praying you will know and hear me! Give me a chance to explain…
You see you have a miracle, whether or not you know it, inside you right now. And, I am afraid for you and the baby. The abortion providers want you to think that your son or daughter is simply cells or tissue. However, while they have tissue and cells, they have a heart, a brain, tiny beautiful wiggly toes, and hands to grasp and hold. These hands that hold and feet that kick feel because they are alive right now. They feel PAIN! Your baby even knows you are sad.
The doctors get paid by you to kill the baby. They also get monies elsewhere to help them continue to provide abortion services. They do not care at times what the baby looks like or what happens to the baby afterward. They have a job to do. I am not sure at times if the mother is even awake.
In this article, one of Dr. Karpen's employees, Deborah Edge, goes into detail about what happens when the doctor decides to end a baby's life that is unexpectedly born alive. http://www.lifenews.com/2013/05/15/another-gosnell-report-shows-texas-abortion-doc-kills-babies-born-alive/
I believe that denial can only take you so far. The reality is that you may emerge much like your child, in pieces, if you choose to abort. There are so many medical inaccuracies that make the reality of the abortion so unreal. Just because you do not feel the baby does not make the baby any less real. Yes, there are circumstances, but you can do this. I know you can. You see, I know that you have faced challenges that have made you strong. You are a fighter. This may be the biggest fight you will know.
I believe in you. I know that the plan God has for you is strong. What if His greatest plan for you was to carry this CHILD? You would be the mother of your baby. Your baby may be a mother, father, brother, sister, lawyer, doctor, teacher, and the list goes on. He/she can be anything because he/she lives!
Please read the article. I know it is not easy to read. However, this article contains a stark contrast to the sterile environment I picture in my mind. I am hoping you will be kind to yourself and your baby. I pray you will become the woman you know you can in spite of your circumstances.
Perhaps in the process of saving your child's life, you just might save your own.
by Noel
Guest Blogger
You see you have a miracle, whether or not you know it, inside you right now. And, I am afraid for you and the baby. The abortion providers want you to think that your son or daughter is simply cells or tissue. However, while they have tissue and cells, they have a heart, a brain, tiny beautiful wiggly toes, and hands to grasp and hold. These hands that hold and feet that kick feel because they are alive right now. They feel PAIN! Your baby even knows you are sad.
The doctors get paid by you to kill the baby. They also get monies elsewhere to help them continue to provide abortion services. They do not care at times what the baby looks like or what happens to the baby afterward. They have a job to do. I am not sure at times if the mother is even awake.
In this article, one of Dr. Karpen's employees, Deborah Edge, goes into detail about what happens when the doctor decides to end a baby's life that is unexpectedly born alive. http://www.lifenews.com/2013/05/15/another-gosnell-report-shows-texas-abortion-doc-kills-babies-born-alive/
I believe that denial can only take you so far. The reality is that you may emerge much like your child, in pieces, if you choose to abort. There are so many medical inaccuracies that make the reality of the abortion so unreal. Just because you do not feel the baby does not make the baby any less real. Yes, there are circumstances, but you can do this. I know you can. You see, I know that you have faced challenges that have made you strong. You are a fighter. This may be the biggest fight you will know.
I believe in you. I know that the plan God has for you is strong. What if His greatest plan for you was to carry this CHILD? You would be the mother of your baby. Your baby may be a mother, father, brother, sister, lawyer, doctor, teacher, and the list goes on. He/she can be anything because he/she lives!
Please read the article. I know it is not easy to read. However, this article contains a stark contrast to the sterile environment I picture in my mind. I am hoping you will be kind to yourself and your baby. I pray you will become the woman you know you can in spite of your circumstances.
Perhaps in the process of saving your child's life, you just might save your own.
by Noel
Guest Blogger
Picture This . . .
29 07,13 10:29
Picture this: a woman is alone and takes a home pregnancy test in her bathroom. She anxiously awaits the test results with her heart pounding and palms sweaty. After three long minutes of hopeful waiting, her destiny becomes clear as she finds out she IS pregnant! Tears of joy stream down her face as flashes of her baby flood her thoughts and imprints of motherhood naturally take over her body penetrating through her soul. A life is growing inside of her! What a miracle! Although she is early in her first trimester, she has hopes and dreams for this unborn baby in her womb, a gift she had been patiently and hopefully longing for. She immediately makes the next available doctor’s appointment and heads to the engagement with loving delight. The minutes she waits to see or hear her baby cannot pass quickly enough. Finally, the doctor confirms through ultrasound that yes indeed, she is pregnant. Again, tears of blissful love and happiness roll down her face as she exclaims, “That’s my baby! My little angel! My blessing!” The doctor gently smiles and congratulates the new mommy and replies, “Yes, that is your baby!” The new mother is so fascinated by the spec on the screen which is her unborn child, she simply stares in amazement. Her baby is barely the size of a kidney bean, but it is her baby none-the-less. She leaves the appointment, picture in hand, glowing and proud of her newfound motherhood! Take a moment. Can you see her? Can you see this mother? Can you picture her engulfed in all the love and joy surrounding the news of this miracle growing inside of her; her unborn baby?
Now, picture this: The same woman; she is alone and takes a home pregnancy test in her bathroom. She anxiously awaits the test results with her heart pounding and palms sweaty. After three long minutes of unnerving torture, her destiny becomes frightfully clear. She IS pregnant. Tears of fear and sorrow stream down her face as flashes of her unsettling future floods her thoughts, and imprints of distress take over her body penetrating through her troubled soul. What a disaster! Hopes and dreams for her future are instantly shattered. This wasn’t supposed to happen. This surmounting pressure of motherhood is ultimately crushed by the overwhelming fear of bringing another life into this world. She is early enough in her first trimester that she hopes this problem can be fixed without too many side effects. She immediately makes the next available doctor’s appointment and heads to the medical facility heartbroken and numb. The minutes she waits in the cold office chair to confirm her agonizing fate cannot pass quickly enough. Finally, the doctor confirms through ultrasound that yes indeed, she is pregnant. Again, tears of unrelenting sorrow and regret roll down her face as she lay silent on the bitter, lifeless bed – feeling much like a corpse in a casket herself. Her face turned abruptly from the image of the blob of tissue on the ultrasound screen. While no words were spoken, her spirit cried out in anguish and tender emotion as mourning of motherhood began. She leaves the appointment, empty handed and empty hearted, sad and shameful of what she has done and what she will do. She needs a solution to her problem. She needs this to go away and go away quickly. Take a moment. Can you see her? Can you see this mother? Can you picture her enraptured in endless shame, guilt, and condemnation surrounding the news of this miracle growing inside of her; her unborn baby?
It is interesting and disturbing how we can justify our decisions based on our feelings and circumstances forming ignorant opinions evoked in action. As humans we think, we feel, we think, we feel. Feelings can change momentarily; they are not trustworthy or reliable. I know because I was both of these women. When it was convenient for me, I chose to believe that there was a baby growing inside me, but when times were challenging and the storm hit, I denied the sanctity of life and ultimately made the decision to end my baby’s life. When I had a brief inclination of keeping my baby and going forth with the pregnancy, I had no problem saying, “my baby” or “Mommy is hungry; time to feed the baby” or “I love you baby!” However, the mind is powerful and can be influenced by feelings, emotions, and false perceptions of reality. In the blink of an eye, I was able to shut off the humanity and dignity of not only myself, but also my unborn baby. I triggered a robotic mindless response including having severe lapse in judgment to the point of numbing denial. I went into autopilot. What baby? It is not a baby. I never referred to the growing life as baby after that decision to abort my child clicked into my subconscious. In a moment’s notice, my selfish indulgence turned life to death. The denial lasted for almost 20 years as I struggled to carry on with “life.”
While these two scenarios pose views on opposite ends of the spectrum, fortunately for us, we have a Creator who is steadfast and righteous in all ways. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). God does not change His mind based on His feelings, views, or thoughts. He is and always will be consistent. It wasn’t until I learned the truth that I could begin to deal with the tragedy of my decision. God’s truth is that I was carrying a baby in my womb. From the moment of conception, God was intimately involved in creating His masterpiece cell by precious cell. He was there forming my baby in secret, in my womb (Psalm 139:13-16). God’s word is enough; however, scientific evidence also supports life at conception. June Hunt, author of “Abortion: Not a Choice, but a Child,” declares a human being is “denned as a member of the species homo sapiens. Each individual human being has its own genetic code (DNA) that is singularly unique and established at the time of conception. The DNA of a human fetus is distinct not only from animals, fowl, and fish, but also from the mother’s DNA” (2009, p. 5). Both scientific and biblical evidence support life at conception. Once you know this information, you cannot deny it. What would it take for you to choose life?
If you were walking along a street and saw an innocent child being beaten or hurt by an adult, would you intervene? How much more innocent is a helpless unborn baby? No voice, no rights, no choice of his or her own – but a victim to choice. BE the voice. “Open your mouth for the speechless, in the cause of all who are appointed to die. Open your mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy” (Proverbs 31:8-9). According to this scripture, we are to stand up and defend those who cannot defend themselves. Say NO to abortion. Feelings will come and go; trust in God, faith, and facts. After all the dust clears and the storm passes, you must live with your decisions. Make the right decision, choose life.
by Stephanie Kamanawa
Guest Blogger
Now, picture this: The same woman; she is alone and takes a home pregnancy test in her bathroom. She anxiously awaits the test results with her heart pounding and palms sweaty. After three long minutes of unnerving torture, her destiny becomes frightfully clear. She IS pregnant. Tears of fear and sorrow stream down her face as flashes of her unsettling future floods her thoughts, and imprints of distress take over her body penetrating through her troubled soul. What a disaster! Hopes and dreams for her future are instantly shattered. This wasn’t supposed to happen. This surmounting pressure of motherhood is ultimately crushed by the overwhelming fear of bringing another life into this world. She is early enough in her first trimester that she hopes this problem can be fixed without too many side effects. She immediately makes the next available doctor’s appointment and heads to the medical facility heartbroken and numb. The minutes she waits in the cold office chair to confirm her agonizing fate cannot pass quickly enough. Finally, the doctor confirms through ultrasound that yes indeed, she is pregnant. Again, tears of unrelenting sorrow and regret roll down her face as she lay silent on the bitter, lifeless bed – feeling much like a corpse in a casket herself. Her face turned abruptly from the image of the blob of tissue on the ultrasound screen. While no words were spoken, her spirit cried out in anguish and tender emotion as mourning of motherhood began. She leaves the appointment, empty handed and empty hearted, sad and shameful of what she has done and what she will do. She needs a solution to her problem. She needs this to go away and go away quickly. Take a moment. Can you see her? Can you see this mother? Can you picture her enraptured in endless shame, guilt, and condemnation surrounding the news of this miracle growing inside of her; her unborn baby?
It is interesting and disturbing how we can justify our decisions based on our feelings and circumstances forming ignorant opinions evoked in action. As humans we think, we feel, we think, we feel. Feelings can change momentarily; they are not trustworthy or reliable. I know because I was both of these women. When it was convenient for me, I chose to believe that there was a baby growing inside me, but when times were challenging and the storm hit, I denied the sanctity of life and ultimately made the decision to end my baby’s life. When I had a brief inclination of keeping my baby and going forth with the pregnancy, I had no problem saying, “my baby” or “Mommy is hungry; time to feed the baby” or “I love you baby!” However, the mind is powerful and can be influenced by feelings, emotions, and false perceptions of reality. In the blink of an eye, I was able to shut off the humanity and dignity of not only myself, but also my unborn baby. I triggered a robotic mindless response including having severe lapse in judgment to the point of numbing denial. I went into autopilot. What baby? It is not a baby. I never referred to the growing life as baby after that decision to abort my child clicked into my subconscious. In a moment’s notice, my selfish indulgence turned life to death. The denial lasted for almost 20 years as I struggled to carry on with “life.”
While these two scenarios pose views on opposite ends of the spectrum, fortunately for us, we have a Creator who is steadfast and righteous in all ways. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). God does not change His mind based on His feelings, views, or thoughts. He is and always will be consistent. It wasn’t until I learned the truth that I could begin to deal with the tragedy of my decision. God’s truth is that I was carrying a baby in my womb. From the moment of conception, God was intimately involved in creating His masterpiece cell by precious cell. He was there forming my baby in secret, in my womb (Psalm 139:13-16). God’s word is enough; however, scientific evidence also supports life at conception. June Hunt, author of “Abortion: Not a Choice, but a Child,” declares a human being is “denned as a member of the species homo sapiens. Each individual human being has its own genetic code (DNA) that is singularly unique and established at the time of conception. The DNA of a human fetus is distinct not only from animals, fowl, and fish, but also from the mother’s DNA” (2009, p. 5). Both scientific and biblical evidence support life at conception. Once you know this information, you cannot deny it. What would it take for you to choose life?
If you were walking along a street and saw an innocent child being beaten or hurt by an adult, would you intervene? How much more innocent is a helpless unborn baby? No voice, no rights, no choice of his or her own – but a victim to choice. BE the voice. “Open your mouth for the speechless, in the cause of all who are appointed to die. Open your mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy” (Proverbs 31:8-9). According to this scripture, we are to stand up and defend those who cannot defend themselves. Say NO to abortion. Feelings will come and go; trust in God, faith, and facts. After all the dust clears and the storm passes, you must live with your decisions. Make the right decision, choose life.
by Stephanie Kamanawa
Guest Blogger
I Could Never Do That . . .
22 07,13 14:37
There are many things I thought I could never do. There are reasons that there is a saying, never say never. It only takes a situation that is unexpected, some kind of interpersonal turmoil, or who knows a full moon. These days I am a little more cautious with the word never and even judgment.
I hear, I could never give my baby up for adoption, I am too young, too old, too poor, too many things to list. So what are the options if you do not feel you could keep the baby and you do not want to adopt? It seems abortion (killing your unborn child)is a very extreme measure. These days the media has really watered down abortion and made it so clean, sterile, and acceptable. However, the Gosnell trial really opened the eyes of the world to the atrocities that women and the unborn go through.
Rather than talk about the bloody rusty equipment used to perform abortions and killing babies born alive then killed, let's discuss LIFE! Let's really discuss what it means to give life knowing that you will be giving a baby for someone else to raise and adopt.
Adoption is no longer this secret that no one knows about. It is celebrated and embraced. When the family adopts they even have a Gotcha Day! Twenty years ago maybe, there were not as many open adoptions. Most adoptions were closed. Closed adoptions are adoptions without any involvement with the birth parents. Open adoptions are adoptions that have as little or as much involvement as the birth family and adoptive family agree upon. These days you have agencies really advocating for families to know the birth mother and to have a relationship with the child and the family. This arrangement has been shown to really aid families in the emotional health and well-being of the child.
If both the adoptive family and birth family agree, the birth mother can become like an auntie. Some birth mothers may not want to be this involved. Perhaps just knowing the baby is safe, healthy, and loved is enough for the birth family. However, some couples trade photos monthly, some meet for vacations; some are friends on Facebook and a ton of other ways to have relationships. There are many ways to love your child and allow another to adopt your child. It is not a prison sentence, ruin your life event or shameful experience that many years ago people shipped young women away for.
Adoption is one of the most sacrificial and beautiful experiences. To know that instead of killing your baby, you chose to give life. Wow! So many mother's and father's right now are searching, praying, dealing with the thought they can never have a baby without adoption. They are hoping that YOU will choose them. They hope YOU will think they are good enough to love, raise, and care for your child. Can you imagine? You are very important!
Families have to go through a lot of work to even be able to adopt. They have to find an attorney, get background checks to make sure they are safe people, and have a biography written about them called a homestudy so that they can be reviewed by adoption agencies. They make the cutest photo albums of their family for you to look at. You even get to meet them. Financially, adoptions cost thousands of dollars. However, aside from the financial, probably the hardest thing any adoptive parent goes through is waiting. Waiting to be chosen by a birth family can be a lengthy process that couples can wait years and years for.
According to Prolifeacction.org, 1.2 million abortions are performed each year in the U.S. as of August 2011. What would happen if those children were born and allowed to be adopted?
Why do people adopt? So many families struggle to have a baby, perhaps there was an abortion that left the family unable to conceive. Some women or men may have fertility issues. Or, maybe they were able to have one child and unable to have more. Maybe they were a little older when they found the love of their life, and their ability to have a child is no longer an option. There are instances where there is no known reason why families are unable to have children. These families want with all their hearts to open their lives to a child. Some families even choose to adopt simply because they want to open their hearts and homes to another child.
There are many ways that open adoptions can bring so much more than life into this world. Children want to know why they look the way they do, where they come from, and why they like or do not like certain things. You are the key to their puzzle. They need you to love them enough to allow them to grow into your belly, kick around a bit, and be born. You can do it. I know it is not simple. The situations in your life that you face are anything but simple. However, the simple experiences rarely develop great women. Strong, courageous, and influential women rarely lived boring lives. They made choices that often resulted in a monumental defining moment.
I have watched, read, and talked to many women that have regretted their abortions. They regret that their baby will never be able to live. The regret they allowed other people to coerce or tell them what to do. They regret that they were so emotional they made an impulsive decision. They regret the child they will never see, hear laugh, or be born.
With adoptions, it appears these women feel more peace and experience fewer traumas over the long term. Imagine having had an abortion and hearing the stories that are coming out about abortion doctors/clinics and the lack of quality control. For some women, this is traumatizing. Knowing you chose to give birth and share that child with a family you selected sounds so much more healing. I am almost certain that many women, instead of saying, “I could never give my baby up for adoption” would have allowed themselves the option of adoption.
by Noel
Guest Blogger
I hear, I could never give my baby up for adoption, I am too young, too old, too poor, too many things to list. So what are the options if you do not feel you could keep the baby and you do not want to adopt? It seems abortion (killing your unborn child)is a very extreme measure. These days the media has really watered down abortion and made it so clean, sterile, and acceptable. However, the Gosnell trial really opened the eyes of the world to the atrocities that women and the unborn go through.
Rather than talk about the bloody rusty equipment used to perform abortions and killing babies born alive then killed, let's discuss LIFE! Let's really discuss what it means to give life knowing that you will be giving a baby for someone else to raise and adopt.
Adoption is no longer this secret that no one knows about. It is celebrated and embraced. When the family adopts they even have a Gotcha Day! Twenty years ago maybe, there were not as many open adoptions. Most adoptions were closed. Closed adoptions are adoptions without any involvement with the birth parents. Open adoptions are adoptions that have as little or as much involvement as the birth family and adoptive family agree upon. These days you have agencies really advocating for families to know the birth mother and to have a relationship with the child and the family. This arrangement has been shown to really aid families in the emotional health and well-being of the child.
If both the adoptive family and birth family agree, the birth mother can become like an auntie. Some birth mothers may not want to be this involved. Perhaps just knowing the baby is safe, healthy, and loved is enough for the birth family. However, some couples trade photos monthly, some meet for vacations; some are friends on Facebook and a ton of other ways to have relationships. There are many ways to love your child and allow another to adopt your child. It is not a prison sentence, ruin your life event or shameful experience that many years ago people shipped young women away for.
Adoption is one of the most sacrificial and beautiful experiences. To know that instead of killing your baby, you chose to give life. Wow! So many mother's and father's right now are searching, praying, dealing with the thought they can never have a baby without adoption. They are hoping that YOU will choose them. They hope YOU will think they are good enough to love, raise, and care for your child. Can you imagine? You are very important!
Families have to go through a lot of work to even be able to adopt. They have to find an attorney, get background checks to make sure they are safe people, and have a biography written about them called a homestudy so that they can be reviewed by adoption agencies. They make the cutest photo albums of their family for you to look at. You even get to meet them. Financially, adoptions cost thousands of dollars. However, aside from the financial, probably the hardest thing any adoptive parent goes through is waiting. Waiting to be chosen by a birth family can be a lengthy process that couples can wait years and years for.
According to Prolifeacction.org, 1.2 million abortions are performed each year in the U.S. as of August 2011. What would happen if those children were born and allowed to be adopted?
Why do people adopt? So many families struggle to have a baby, perhaps there was an abortion that left the family unable to conceive. Some women or men may have fertility issues. Or, maybe they were able to have one child and unable to have more. Maybe they were a little older when they found the love of their life, and their ability to have a child is no longer an option. There are instances where there is no known reason why families are unable to have children. These families want with all their hearts to open their lives to a child. Some families even choose to adopt simply because they want to open their hearts and homes to another child.
There are many ways that open adoptions can bring so much more than life into this world. Children want to know why they look the way they do, where they come from, and why they like or do not like certain things. You are the key to their puzzle. They need you to love them enough to allow them to grow into your belly, kick around a bit, and be born. You can do it. I know it is not simple. The situations in your life that you face are anything but simple. However, the simple experiences rarely develop great women. Strong, courageous, and influential women rarely lived boring lives. They made choices that often resulted in a monumental defining moment.
I have watched, read, and talked to many women that have regretted their abortions. They regret that their baby will never be able to live. The regret they allowed other people to coerce or tell them what to do. They regret that they were so emotional they made an impulsive decision. They regret the child they will never see, hear laugh, or be born.
With adoptions, it appears these women feel more peace and experience fewer traumas over the long term. Imagine having had an abortion and hearing the stories that are coming out about abortion doctors/clinics and the lack of quality control. For some women, this is traumatizing. Knowing you chose to give birth and share that child with a family you selected sounds so much more healing. I am almost certain that many women, instead of saying, “I could never give my baby up for adoption” would have allowed themselves the option of adoption.
by Noel
Guest Blogger
Just a Clump of Cells and Tissue
15 07,13 11:13
If you get pregnant, you do not have to worry! If you do not want a baby, it is only tissue, clumps of cells, and not even real. You do not have to worry about it. As a woman, you have rights and freedom. You can have an abortion. There are so many ways you do not have to be inconvenienced. You can even do it at home and just cramp a lot.
Growing up I was told it was nothing. It was not real. It was a dream. It was not even a baby. Roe v. Wade was important for women. We have rights! No more back alley abortions. Now, we can let teenagers 14 and older go to the pharmacy without parents and pick up a prescription.
Actually, there is a baby in there. The baby has a heartbeat. I have seen that baby wiggle and move. I have seen them suck their thumbs, yawn, kick, and pretend to be shy. I have seen a miracle. I have gotten to know a couple of them. I have known what it means to carry and hold a baby.
As a therapist, I have seen women struggle with their decision to abort their baby/ies. They are depressed. They know about when their baby would have been born. They know who chose to end the pregnancy. This freedom people taut, is a form of bondage. It is an emotional slavery. These women come to my office seeing the process of the abortion.
Emotionally the mother may suffer and see the trauma of the baby being aborted. The little boy or little girls they could have had. They see the process of the abortion and often relive the experience. The baby they aborted they see in other children, cousins, and this clump of cells almost had a name. The baby was almost real. Please look at this site and read the stories these women have gone through and continue to go through. http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/plannedparenthood/
Please read the stories of women that have experienced this process and see if this is the emotional life you want to live for the rest of your life. This is not freedom or women's rights. This is a form of slavery.
You are a mother, not after birth, but at conception. You have a womb with a child that hears your heartbeat. If you need help learning to be a mother, there are women that will walk along side you. Seek a safe place that gives mothers help. They will be willing to instruct you how to be the mother you may not have had.
You can mother this child!
by Noel
Guest Blogger
Growing up I was told it was nothing. It was not real. It was a dream. It was not even a baby. Roe v. Wade was important for women. We have rights! No more back alley abortions. Now, we can let teenagers 14 and older go to the pharmacy without parents and pick up a prescription.
Actually, there is a baby in there. The baby has a heartbeat. I have seen that baby wiggle and move. I have seen them suck their thumbs, yawn, kick, and pretend to be shy. I have seen a miracle. I have gotten to know a couple of them. I have known what it means to carry and hold a baby.
As a therapist, I have seen women struggle with their decision to abort their baby/ies. They are depressed. They know about when their baby would have been born. They know who chose to end the pregnancy. This freedom people taut, is a form of bondage. It is an emotional slavery. These women come to my office seeing the process of the abortion.
Emotionally the mother may suffer and see the trauma of the baby being aborted. The little boy or little girls they could have had. They see the process of the abortion and often relive the experience. The baby they aborted they see in other children, cousins, and this clump of cells almost had a name. The baby was almost real. Please look at this site and read the stories these women have gone through and continue to go through. http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/plannedparenthood/
Please read the stories of women that have experienced this process and see if this is the emotional life you want to live for the rest of your life. This is not freedom or women's rights. This is a form of slavery.
You are a mother, not after birth, but at conception. You have a womb with a child that hears your heartbeat. If you need help learning to be a mother, there are women that will walk along side you. Seek a safe place that gives mothers help. They will be willing to instruct you how to be the mother you may not have had.
You can mother this child!
by Noel
Guest Blogger